Thursday, January 5, 2017

Trust no one in self defense

The media and many self defense schools perpetuate the belief that you will be attacked by a complete stranger. The harsh and most horrifying reality is you are more likely to be attacked or killed by someone you know than by a complete stranger.

Studies have shown that many crimes (murders, fights, rapes, assaults, etc.) are done by ex lovers, family members, friends, acquaintances, and associates (see link below.) Nevertheless people have an irrational fear that someone whom they do not see on a daily basis will attack them. We would rather believe that a stranger with a history of violence will most likely make us the victim of a crime. We couldn't possibly imagine someone that we know and love could be capable of such horrendous crimes and yet this is the reality for many people. As for why these crimes happen, the reasons range from jealousy to greed and rage to abuse.

The saying "keep your friends close and your enemies closer.. " is very profoundly true. If we are to practice effective self defense then we must train to fight against anyone including those who are close to us. It may seem cruel and unthinkable but it must be done to ensure the safety of our lives along with the lives of others. We must put ourselves in the mindset that if our own friends are willing to go far enough to harm us, they were truly never our friends to begin with. If our spouses and family members go as far as hiring contract killers to assassinate us, they truly never loved us. We are taught by society that our entire happiness depends on giving ourselves wholeheartedly to those we love. We often see healthy boundaries as wrong because love cannot possibly have any boundaries but this is a lie. In reality, a healthy loving relationship has boundaries because boundaries are there to prevent harm and promote self respect. Once you allow someone to hurt you including those you love, you betray your own identity and self respect. No one not even your family has the right to hurt you and if they do without respecting your wishes, you have a right to defend yourself.

In conclusion, trust no one in self defense. That doesn't mean that you should be afraid of being attacked everyday of your life. It simply means that you should acknowledge the possibility that those closest to you can betray you. Choose who you let into your life carefully. Choose the people you deem are worthy of your trust. Be mindful of motives for why someone you know would want to hurt you. If the time comes that your loved one raises his or fist against you, be prepared to defend yourself.If you enjoyed this post, subscribe to my blog for updates, more advice, and exclusive content in the near future. I'm proud and excited to offer a FREE sample chapter of my E-book "Jeet Kune Do: How to build your own fighting system for self defense!" It's essentially a step-by-step guide on how to make your own self defense system suited to fit your own needs using Jeet Kune Do. If you would love to receive your FREE chapter of my e-book, click on the link below and share a post via. social media then it's yours for FREE! Be sure to also fill out the survey on the right and provide feedback on my blog. Leave questions, comments, and suggestions below.

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