Tuesday, January 31, 2017

How to fight in restraints

Let's assume that you've been abducted or kidnapped and find yourself in handcuffs. If you want to escape and survive then you must learn how to fight in restraints be it zip ties, duct tape, rope, or any other types. If your legs are restrained then there's not much you can do but if it's just your hands that are bound, this guide will teach you how to fight in self defense. Helpful videos are also included.

1) Identify the position you are restrained in - Are your hands bound in front of you or behind you? Are you seated in a chair or standing? Learn as much as you can about how your kidnappers or abductors restrained you and the types of restraints used. The more you know, the better you will be able to act accordingly.

2) Calculate the best opportunity to strike - In order to fight in restraints and escape your kidnappers successfully, you must learn when the best time to attack is. If your hands are the only limbs bound then you need to keep it that way. As soon as your kidnappers bind your legs too, it's over and you will lose almost all of your fighting ability. You also cannot allow yourself to be seated on a chair because then it will be much harder for you to gain an advantageous fighting position. If you are in between two kidnappers with each one holding your arms, you are at a disadvantage. As soon as you try to attack one, both will feel your resistance and you may get the beating of a lifetime. The best time to strike is when you are at a position of advantage and your attacker has minimal to no contact with you.

3) Attack and escape - As long as you can move your arms, legs, and other areas of your body then you can still attack. Use headbutts, shirt grabs, double backfists, hammerfists, elbow strikes, finger jabs, sraight punches, uppercuts, deflections, kicks, knee kicks, bites, grappling holds, shoulder hits, etc. It's very important that you have your hands in synch with each other and strike in one swift motion. You can't fight effectively with both hands working in opposite directions. Since your movements are limited, you should attack in a straight line. Be careful not to lose your balance or your kidnappers will seize the opportunity to restrain you again on the ground and you may not get another chance to fight back again. Some knowledge on ground-fighting will be useful in recovering from falling over (see "grappling in self defense vs. grappling in UFC http://everythingselfdefense.blogspot.com/2017/01/grappling-for-self-defense-vs-grappling.html ) If an opportunity of escape arises, take it by all means as it is more dangerous to stay and fight.

4) Break free from the restraints - You will need to buy time and break free from your restraints quickly at some point. Having knowledge of how to break free from zip ties, rope, handcuffs, wire, and other kinds of restraints quickly will be useful to you in a kidnapping situation. You also need to be aware of your surroundings and somehow get the proper tools needed to release yourself from the restraint.

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Monday, January 30, 2017

Is martial arts effective for self defense?

Is martial arts effective for self defense?

If you ask many if not most people what they think when they hear self defense, they'll say "well martial arts of course!" Martial arts is one of the first things people new to self defense want to learn. Nonetheless, it begs the question "is martial arts effective for self defense?"

Yes and no. Yes because it all depends on how you use it. If you use it well then it's effective. No because martial arts is not the end all be all of self defense. As i mentioned in my other posts (http://everythingselfdefense.blogspot.com/2016/12/why-martial-arts-does-not-mean-self.html), there are several problems with assuming that martial arts means self defense. You cannot simply take a course on martial arts and then expect to defend yourself in every situation in the street. There are many different variables in self defense and violence on the streets such as psychology, fear, aggression, brutality, intimidation, weapons, ambushes, multiple attackers, criminal organizations, family, situational awareness, unresolved conflict, stress, strategy, tactics, the list goes on. For example, do you think you would be able to defend yourself against a group of armed gangsters who are far more aggressive and violent than your typical punks? What about an ambush involving guns? It's nearly impossible for you to learn how to deal with all of these variables in a dojo or local martial arts school. This video gives some good insights on martial arts.

Under what situations is martial arts effective? It depends on the martial arts you are practicing. Martial arts are used for various purposes contrary to popular belief. Can you distinguish martial arts used for sport from martial arts used for theatrical performances in Asian cultures and films? What about martial arts for health and fitness as opposed to self defense? Martial arts simply gives you the tools and knowledge needed for a particular purpose namely hand-to-hand combat. Martial arts as it is known today the total essence of combat.

Guru Dan Inosanto said "I think it's important to take the knowledge of the past and improve it." The ancients have made contributions to the knowledge for combat. It is now up to us to take the knowledge of the past and adapt it to the present so it can be applied effectively. Can you use your martial arts effectively against a gunman? A knifeman? Other martial arts styles? If not, how can you go beyond the limits of a particular system or style and find the answers needed in self defense? How can you apply the traditions of the past while making them work for the modern world?

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Sunday, January 29, 2017

How to increase pain tolerance for fighting

When you are in a street fight for self defense, chances are you will get hit and it will hurt if you make a mistake. Whether you are afraid of getting hit or simply want to know how to handle the pain that comes with getting hit, this guide will teach you how to increase pain tolerance.

Before i start, let me dispel the myth that repeated exposure to pain does NOT increase pain tolerance! In fact, this only makes the pain worse since you've conditioned your mind to expect pain the next time you get hit with a particular object. The reason being is that painful stimuli causes your cells to be more responsive to that stimuli in the future (1). I feel terrible for the students in martial arts or other combat systems who are required to go through that type of ineffective training. That being said, how can you increase your pain tolerance in a healthier way?

Recognize there are two types of responses 1) Physiological - your nervous system receives the painful stimuli and transmits the signals to your brain. This level of pain is out of your control. 2) Psychological - you cannot control pain but you can control how you react to it. Your mindset influences your pain believe it or not. The key to tolerating pain is in your psyche more than it is in your body.

Here are several tips you can use to increase pain tolerance.

* Breathing techniques - Deep breathing allows for endorphins (your body's natural painkillers) to be released. Take a deep breath slowly and exhale as you concentrate on each breath.

* Look at the body part that's hurting - In a study done on those suffering from back pain, scientists studied how subjects seeing their back during surgery affected their pain tolerance. They found that watching their backs during surgery actually increased their level of pain tolerance. They don't know why but it works. If you have a visible injury on your body, simply look at the wound (2).

* Convince yourself that the pain is helping - In another study, scientists split volunteers into two groups. The first was led to believe the experiment would have a devastating effect on their arms. The second was told the procedure would strengthen their arms. The greater the pain, the more powerful the results would be.

* Imagine something horrendous and torturous - It would seem to make sense that thinking of a pleasant thought reduces pain. In reality, the opposite is true. Scientist conducted a study where they showed a list of pictures ranging from pleasant to unpleasant as they induced pain through cold pressor tests. They had to hold their hands in ice cold water for as long as possible. Scientists found volunteers who viewed unpleasant images had higher pain tolerance than those who viewed pleasant images.

* Exercise - There's a study done showing that those who work out end up releasing endorphins naturally and dull pain (3). Exercises provides many health benefits as long as you don't overwork yourself.

Here are training tips to increase pain tolerance. Start by eating spicy foods and as you eat, practice these mental strategies. Get into the habit of convincing yourself that eating spicy foods will help you become healthier or boost your pain tolerance in a fight. Imagine yourself being tortured in the most horrendous way to neutralize the pain experienced from eating spicy foods. Why does this work? There's a chemical found in chili pepper seeds known as capsacian which targets pain receptors in your tongue. When they bind together, it causes a burning sensation and gives you the illusion that you are feeling pain when there's no actual damage being done (4). Another method you could try is submerging your arms in ice cold water for a duration of time as you practice these strategies. Keep practicing until you've made these mental strategies a habit whenever you feel pain. When you get into an actual fight, your body will help you fight pain through adrenaline rushes and it's natural pain killers. Nevertheless, if you actually feel pain in a street fight, use that as a motivation to see your mistakes and find weaknesses in your opponent. Remember to use pain tolerance wisely. Don't start believing that you are invincible to pain all-together.

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2. http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S030439591300078X?np=y 

3. http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/08/13/how-exercise-helps-us-tolerate-pain/ 

4. https://sciencewiththat.wordpress.com/2014/03/21/do-you-like-it-hot-spicy-food-and-your-pain-tolerance/

Saturday, January 28, 2017

Grappling for self defense vs. grappling for UFC

Earlier, i made a post on whether or not you should groundfight in self defense (http://everythingselfdefense.blogspot.com/2017/01/should-you-groundfight-in-self-defense.html). In this post, i will address how to make grappling work in self defense. In order for you to understand how to make it work for self defense, you must understand the differences between grappling in sports and grappling in self defense. I will outline the differences here. Before i go further, i will note that some critics of grappling argue that you should never take it to the ground in self defense. This is true but it's easier said than done especially when your opponent is trying to take you off balance or grapple you. It's not as simple as not going to the ground and getting up. If you try to get up, your opponent will seize that opportunity to close the distance and attack you. I won't tell you "you should never ground-fight or grapple". I simply ask you "can you make it work in self defense?" Without further notice, i present the differences between grappling for self defense and grappling in sport.

* Ground-fighting in UFC is for subduing opponents or K.O, ground-fighting for self defense is to recover your original position - The aim of grappling in MMA especially in the sports world is an offensive measure taken to make your opponent submit or knock him or her out. In order to use ground-fighting for self defense, you must only use it as a defensive measure to gain a more dominant position. You don't want to throw a few punches and immediately go for a flying armbar. That makes no sense as grappling is unnecessary not to mention dangerous in that case. You'll want to end the fight in a standing position but if you get taken to the ground, you will want to create an opportunity to get back on your feet. For example, if your attacker is trying to ground and pound you - block and buck. From there, you can get in a position where you can get back to striking your opponent. This video illustrates my point.

* Ground-fighting in UFC has rules, ground-fighting in self defense doesn't - One objection critics bring is "ground-fighting is dangerous for you because your attacker could use a weapon." Well you could use a weapon too. Whether you train in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu or Judo, you need to free yourself from point systems and the sports mindset. There's nothing stopping you from gouging your attacker's eyes out, biting his/her ears off or throat, biting the calf to escape an armbar, striking the groin, stabbing or shooting him/her from the ground, breaking limbs, bashing his/her head on the concrete, etc. To top if off, you could reposition yourself to control your opponent from reaching for a weapon.

Ground-fighting in UFC is complex, ground-fighting in self defense is simple and efficient - Because UFC limits many attacks, people who use grappling have to work their way around that in order to make grappling effective. This results in complicated movements that don't do well in self defense. In order to make grappling work in self defense, you must free yourself from the way typical people train in grappling. I find many of Master Wong's teachings on ground-fighting to be efficient and simple. Rather than the standard double leg takedown used in sports grappling that exposes your body and compromises balance, you could use more of a single leg sweep takedown method.

* Ground-fighting in UFC is for engagement, ground-fighting in self defense is for disengagement - As i mentioned in my 1st point, UFC's aim of grappling is to submit your opponent or cause a knock out. The strategy is to "go all in" so to speak and in gain a dominant position on the ground. Grappling namely ground-fighting in self defense should be used to disengage your opponent and create an opportunity to get back on your feet. If for example you get knocked down, you still could keep your opponent at bay with kicks or knock him/her over which gives you the chance to get up quickly. Alternatively, you could carry your opponent with his/her momentum to the ground. If you are attacked by a wrestler or Brazilian Jiu Jitsu fighter, your goal should be to escape the lying position rather than outgrapple him or her on the ground.

As you can see, it all boils down to the training and how skilled you are in using grappling for self defense. If you don't want to go to the ground, what measures will you take to prevent that from happening? Anti-grappling? Sprawls? When using grappling or ground-fighting in self defense, you have to ask yourself "what's the strategy behind your usage of those areas of combat? How will you apply them to self defense as opposed to sport?" If you enjoyed this post, subscribe to my blog for updates, more advice, and exclusive content in the near future. I'm proud and excited to offer a FREE sample chapter of my E-book "Jeet Kune Do: How to build your own fighting system for self defense!" It's essentially a step-by-step guide on how to make your own self defense system suited to fit your own needs using Jeet Kune Do. If you would love to receive your FREE chapter of my e-book, click on the link below and share a post via. social media then it's yours for FREE! Be sure to also fill out the survey on the right and provide feedback on my blog. Leave questions, comments, and suggestions below.

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Friday, January 27, 2017

How to learn martial arts and self defense online

If you are interested in learning martial arts for the purpose of self defense but don't know where to start, you've come to the right place. This guide will teach you a general step by step how to learn martial arts online and give you some helpful tips in the process.

1) Research a martial arts you like - If you have no idea what martial arts or hand to hand combat system you want to train in, do some research. What are you good at? What are you comfortable with doing? What are your strengths? Weaknesses? For example, i don't like executing Muay Thai kicks and the training methods some martial arts require. I've found Wing Chun to fit my personal preference. It's time to find yours.

2) Find a quality online school - Now that you know which martial arts you want to train in, you can find a school that trains in that particular martial art. Make sure that the online school is meeting all of your needs and wants for self defense. You will want to find an instructor who is about quality. For example, i find Master Wong a very credible instructor for self defense and Wing Chun. He has free online courses, DVD's, videos, helpful products, live seminars, and other helpful resources to learn martial arts (see link below).

3) Build your own training area - In order for you to get high quality training, you'll need to make space for you to practice. A large open room is preferable. Make sure that there's no objects or obstacles that could cause injury or get in the way of your training. You might need to invest some money in training equipment such as dummies, punching bags, wall punching pads, punching gloves, list goes on. If you don't have money, you might need to improvise and use everyday objects in the meantime. For example, i use a wall to practice timing my kicks at a certain range. I also use them to condition my knuckles and practice good form.

4) Practice the basics first - Before you learn anything about a martial art, you must first understand the basics. Spend time practicing footwork, proper body alignment, drills, guard, list goes on. Without understanding the basics, you won't be able to understand much less do the art well. Once you've grasped the basics then you can move onto the more advanced material.

5) Learn from videos and practice techniques - Doesn't matter how many videos you've watched, you won't be able to use the techniques and moves shown unless you spend alot of time practicing them at home. Make sure that you observe the instructor and pay attention to crucial details. Rewind the video and play it as many times as you need or ask questions. Keep practicing until you finally get the proper technique or movement done correctly. Integrate them in your muscle memory and they will be second nature when you need them. This is how one student of Jiu Jitsu learned online.

6) Practice solo sparring or with a partner - If you don't have a partner then spar by yourself (see "http://everythingselfdefense.blogspot.com/2016/12/how-to-do-effective-solo-sparring.html") and imagine an opponent. If you do have a partner (a trusted friend) then spar with him or her in a large open area such as a backyard or a park. Make sure that you use sparring gear and equipment for safety. Focus on recalling what you've learned from the martial art you are practicing. You could also practice drills with your partner.

7) Gain feedback - If you are confused then you need to ask questions and gain feedback on your performance. Join and interact in online communities or ask your online instructor for guidance. You may need to film yourself sparring and post the video on forums or other social platforms so you can gain effective feedback. Practicing in front of a mirror also works in understanding where you need to improve.

And my last final words on the matter is simply keep practicing. There's no secrets or shortcuts other than quality practice. If you enjoyed this post, subscribe to my blog for updates, more advice, and exclusive content in the near future. I'm proud and excited to offer a FREE sample chapter of my E-book "Jeet Kune Do: How to build your own fighting system for self defense!" It's essentially a step-by-step guide on how to make your own self defense system suited to fit your own needs using Jeet Kune Do. If you would love to receive your FREE chapter of my e-book, click on the link below and share a post via. social media then it's yours for FREE! Be sure to also fill out the survey on the right and provide feedback on my blog. Leave questions, comments, and suggestions below.

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Thursday, January 26, 2017

How to end street fights FAST

If you ever find yourself in a situation where someone urges you to engage in a street fight, there are several things you need to do in order to defend yourself. Why is it important for you to end street fights as fast as possible? Because your attacker might have a weapon or friends waiting for an ambush. You don't know how skilled or violent your attacker might be. Doesn't matter how much martial arts or self defense you know, there's also a strong possibility that you might get seriously injured or killed by an untrained fighter. Here is my guide to ending street fights fast assuming that your enemy is facing you.

1) Diffuse and avoid the situation - Many street fights begin with verbal arguments or attacks. You need to understand how to diffuse the situation from getting more violent. Don't provoke your enemy with threatening and taunting language. Remain calm and be respectful. If you can, leave the situation immediately.


2) Keep your distance - The dangers of being too close to an attacker is the risk of getting headbutted in the face or hit with a hook punch outside of your peripheral vision. You need to be able to see your attacker's body in front of you and be aware of others around you. Controlling the distance is important because you have to assume he could pull out a weapon any moment.

3) Strike first and without warning - I've noticed many martial arts schools and self defense instructors whether on social media, on the internet, or in schools teach you to get in your fighting stance if a street fight breaks then go into techniques or attacks. What are they missing? The element of surprise. Getting your opponent's guard down with distractions and body language. If you are near your opponent to land a surprise attack, why would you sacrifice that opportunity to get in a fighting stance as you move back? The longer you take to finish your opponent, the more dangerous it is for you. In order to end street fights fast, you need to change your mindset. It's not a sparring match or a sports fight. It's a matter of life and death.

How do you end street fights fast? Deception and using the element of surprise. Learn how to read your opponent's body language and get in a non-threatening posture. You will want to let your attacker know that you are not a threat but also put your hands up to defend yourself and reposition your legs to get into a fighting stance. This video gives a good illustration. As soon as you catch your attacker telegraphing his or her attack, you evade or block then BOOM! You land a direct hit.

4) Hit vital areas - Don't just blindly hit your attacker, make the 1st hit count and the 2nd hit count in case the 1st hit fails. If you hit someone hard enough in the jaw, temples, or sides of the neck then that's a guaranteed knock out. It doesn't matter how fast you are or how powerful you are in this situation. It's about how accurate your hits land on your opponent. Timing, accuracy, and proper response are critical to ending a street fight as fast as possible. Personally, i recommend hitting the side of the neck with a chop to knock out your opponent. This is safer than punching the jaw and risk breaking your hand in the process. If your opponent is dazed and still doesn't go down, you hit him or her again in a vital area to knock him or her out.


5) Have a back up plan - If you fail to end a street fight as quickly as possible with the first two hits then you need a back up plan. Kick your opponent in the sides of the knees and knock him or her off balance. The quicker you can end a fight either by knocking your enemy off balance, a knock out, or devastating blows to vital areas - the faster you can escape to safety.

In conclusion, this is a perfect demonstration of how to end a street fight fast. In this situation, an aggressive man approaches a street vendor looking for a fight. The street vendor is calm and keeps his distance not giving any intentions of fighting. The man throws a wild punch, the vendor moves back, closes the distance, and lands a knock out punch.If you enjoyed this post, subscribe to my blog for updates, more advice, and exclusive content in the near future. I'm proud and excited to offer a FREE sample chapter of my E-book "Jeet Kune Do: How to build your own fighting system for self defense!" It's essentially a step-by-step guide on how to make your own self defense system suited to fit your own needs using Jeet Kune Do. If you would love to receive your FREE chapter of my e-book, click on the link below and share a post via. social media then it's yours for FREE! Be sure to also fill out the survey on the right and provide feedback on my blog. Leave questions, comments, and suggestions below.

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Wednesday, January 25, 2017

How to defend yourself against insults

Verbal insults occur far more frequently than physical attacks. The effects of verbal abuse leave much more lasting scars because it changes the way we view ourselves. Verbal abuse can often last a lifetime than physical abuse and can cause a myriad of problems psychologically. That being said, it is important to learn verbal self defense against someone attacking you verbally.

1) Remain a calm composure - Take deep breaths and don't react as if you've been offended. Instead laugh it off and remain calm. The last thing you want is to react based on the pain you feel and have it escalate into a fight. Own up to your feelings rather than deny them.

2) Don't get defensive - When we are insulted, the natural reaction is to defend ourselves. This is an improper response because it gives your verbal attacker power over you. It also exposes your weakness to criticism. Avoiding insults doesn't always work because your compromising your own health and safety to satisfy the needs of your attacker.

3) Understand that triggered the verbal attacker - One of the most powerful responses to diffusing the power of insults is understanding what triggered your attacker. We focus on the insults from a logical point of view asking "why are you insulting me?" That's not how humans work. We first react with emotions (usually negative) and then use logic to justify them or take them out on others. For example, someone may verbally lash out at you when he or she is frustrated with life. Figure out what it is that you did or said to cause your verbal attacker to feel threatened whether it's a post on social media, a belief, clothing, or otherwise. This isn't to say you specifically caused the verbal attack, simply understanding what triggers your verbal attacker to insecurity or discomfort.

4) Respond with understanding - According to psychologist George Miller, the best way to deal with insults is by assuming they have some truth to them for the moment and figure out the truth. Rather than taking it as an insult, interpret as a hidden message with underlying truth. See yourself as a problem solver than someone who has been offended. Turn negativity into positivity in order to learn more about your verbal attacker and yourself. If someone said "your so stupid!", you respond with "why am i so stupid?" Your attacker will be thrown off guard and be forced to respond or be discouraged from attacking you. This video will summarize the concept. In the words of Antisthenes - "Pay attention to your enemies, for they are the first to discover your mistakes."

5) Set boundaries - Be assertive and set healthy boundaries. When you are insulted, say something like "i appreciate your opinion but i do not tolerate insults. I believe we can have a more productive discussion without resorting to verbal attacks." This will also throw your verbal attacker off guard.

6) Reflect the verbal attack - Make your tone of voice and body language interrogating. Repeat the verbal attack in order to make your verbal attacker reflect on his or her behavior. When an attacker says "your ignorant..." You calmly turn to face him or her and say "i'm sorry..did you just say I'M ignorant?"

7) Use the boring baroque response - This tactic involves is giving a long explanation for your attacker is right using meaningless stories and words. This is to diffuse tension and discourage your attacker from attacking you further. For example, if a verbal attacker asks "why are you so dumb?" You could respond with "well ya know i'm not sure...i think it started back in my childhood when my parents raised me that way...i had alot of problems in school and i think that's probably what triggered it.." Keep talking nonsense until your verbal attacker gets bored and possibly leaves.

In conclusion, remember that the aim is to not respond with more verbal attacks but to diffuse the situation and prevent it from escalating into violence. Practice these tactics with a partner. If you enjoyed this post, subscribe to my blog for updates, more advice, and exclusive content in the near future. I'm proud and excited to offer a FREE sample chapter of my E-book "Jeet Kune Do: How to build your own fighting system for self defense!" It's essentially a step-by-step guide on how to make your own self defense system suited to fit your own needs using Jeet Kune Do. If you would love to receive your FREE chapter of my e-book, click on the link below and share a post via. social media then it's yours for FREE! Be sure to also fill out the survey on the right and provide feedback on my blog. Leave questions, comments, and suggestions below.

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Tuesday, January 24, 2017

Self defense against suicide bombers

Suicide attacks are very common in many different parts of the world. There's very little advice on how to defend yourself against suicide bombers. Nevertheless, this guide will try to address how to deal with suicide bombers. Keep in mind that your chances of surviving a suicide attack aren't that high once the bomb has detonated. There are generally two ways a bomb could go off 1) Manual detonation where the bomber him or herself has to trigger the explosion. 2) Remote detonation where someone else detonates the bomb on the bomber from a remote location.

1) Learn to read body language and respond - Your best line of defense is learning how to read body language and prevent putting yourself in a potentially dangerous situation. Once the attack has begun, it's too late so it's critical you focus on preventing the attack before it happens. Be aware of your surroundings and of people's body language. A suicide bomber may be stressed off knowing his or her life will end shortly, afraid of being arrested and compromising the mission, etc. Maybe you notice the suicide bomber pulls his or her shirt down to conceal a weapon via a bomb. Perhaps you may notice bizarre or suspicious behavior. Understand the psychology of a suicide bomber is crucial in survival. According to new research, there's growing evidence that people who become suicide bombers do so because they suffer from psychological problems (PTSD, suicidal tendencies, depression, despair, helplessness, etc.) rather than religious devotion (1). Learn as much as you can about a particular person you find suspicious and avoid him or her if possible.

2) Attack - The distance between you and the suicide bomber will tell you how to respond. If a suicide bomber suddenly stands up, pulls out a detonator, and reveals the bomb or possibly yells a battle cry such as "Allah Ahkbar!", act quickly. If you are very close to that person (close range), close the gap quickly deliver a strike to the face as a distraction (headbutts, elbows, punches, etc.) and control the hand holding the detonator. Hit one of the pressure points responsible for grip. This will cause the bomber to release the trigger reflexively. You could also try to break the arm. Chaim Koppel, an internal security defense system trainer, advises you grab the bomber's shins and pull back (2.) This will cause the bomber to instinctively put his or her hands forward to break the fall but dropping the bomb trigger in the process. If there is an opportunity, you could push the bomber off a building depending on the environment. If you are far away, it's best to throw a projectile such as a knife at the bomber's head. If you use a gun, you risk setting off the bomb. This is very risky and you could be unsuccessful but if it means saving other lives, it's the least you can offer.

3) Take cover - As soon as someone gives away his or her intentions of a suicide bombing, the same concept applies when dealing with a grenade (http://everythingselfdefense.blogspot.com/2017/01/self-defense-against-grenade-attack.html.) Keep your head and other vital areas protected as you get behind cover. In suicide bomb attacks involving an explosive belt, most people die from the shrapnel and debris than the actual explosion itself (3). Therefore, taking cover is critical to your survival if the option is there.

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1. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/what-you-don-t-understand-about-suicide-attacks/

2. http://www.nytimes.com/2005/12/11/magazine/preventing-suicide-bombing.html

3. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Explosive_belt

Monday, January 23, 2017

Can you learn martial arts and self defense online?

Since the internet, martial arts and self defense shifted from traditional means of attending a school near you to sophisticated online learning. Still, there are people who insist that you ought to learn self defense and martial arts in person from a qualified instructor. Can you really learn martial arts or any form of hand to hand combat for self defense online?

Absolutely! There are many benefits to online learning as opposed to learning face-to-face. Because the world and technology has changed so much, it's no longer easy to simply drive to a local school to learn self defense. People have jobs, schedules, or are just too busy that they don't have alot of time to drive all the way to a school and learn self defense. Taking self defense classes online resolves that by letting students go at their own pace with their training in the comfort of their own homes. You also can learn from anywhere in the world as long as you have internet access as opposed to attending a school in person. Why waste an hour driving when you could be using that time practicing?

To top it off, online self defense courses have reached a wider audience worldwide than schools that don't use the internet. Advertising a self defense business and adapting to the times is very important so passing out fliers or business cards just won't cut it anymore. There are several self defense instructors who went global from making youtube videos, making online courses, social media, etc. because millions of people are on the internet. You can get one on one training online via video calls or online communities whereas in person, the instructor cannot teach quality instruction to EVERY student in one session.

There are some common misconceptions made by critics whom in my opinion want to enforce traditions on others when it comes to self defense learning. I will clear them up here.

Some people might argue "well you can't learn self defense just by watching a bunch of videos online.." They are right! You cannot learn self defense or anything for that matter just by watching thousands of videos on youtube. Why? Because even though your mind memorizes the movements, your body doesn't. That's why you need to be doing your part and practicing what you learned at home.

Others argue "you don't have a qualified instructor to correct you..." If you are learning self defense online watching a video or reading an article, where is the instructor? Right in front of you! Simply follow his movements and keep repeating the video until you get them right. The problem with this argument is that you still face the same problem even with a live instructor. I've seen students in my local Hapkido school who appear to have been training there for quite a while and they still made alot of mistakes. Why? Lack of practice at home. Not only do you have to learn proper form and techniques in school, but you also have to practice at home to make sure that you get them right. You learn and practice them all in one go through online self defense schools with less effort.

"you need a sparring partner to put your training to good use.." There are resources online that help you connect with other students in your area. You could meet up with trusted friends and spar with them if you don't have access to a physical school.

What people don't realize is that the same problems you face online, you also face learning in person. I've had plenty of sparring partners in the past for example and i still kept practicing bad habits. Effective training whether online or in person involves self awareness and self correction. No matter where you go and how much training you get in person, you can't excel as a student if you don't become your own teacher.

In conclusion, can you learn martial arts and self defense online? It all depends on you. From my own experience, i've learned martial arts online from many reputable sources and have been practicing ever since. I've also had some training in person as well. I've learned so much more online than i did in local schools because the knowledge was there at my disposal. Do you prefer learning in person? Are you hands-on? Do you like face-to-face interactions? Maybe it's hard to learn self defense by yourself so perhaps attending your local school works for you. Do you like training at home? Are you good at teaching yourself and being resourceful with what you have? Do you have internet access? Perhaps online learning works for you. Overall, do what works best for you.

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Sunday, January 22, 2017

Self defense against multiple armed attackers

If you've read my post "how to fight multiple opponents" (http://everythingselfdefense.blogspot.com/2016/12/how-to-fight-multiple-opponents.html) then you should have a basic understanding on how to deal with multiple unarmed opponents. Now what if you are faced with multiple armed attackers? I will elaborate on the weapons aspect from my previous post. Assuming that your attackers have some melee weapons as opposed to all guns (i will deal with gunmen in the future), you will have to fight with quickness and efficiency. Some weapons training will be useful in these situations.

1) Understand the range of the weapons - By having a good understanding of each weapon's range, you are better able to utilize them effectively. For example, if you managed to disarm a swordsman then you can now keep a knifeman (close range weapon) at a distance with your sword (long range weapon.) If you have a knife, you need to time your intercepting moves against long range weapons and attack at close range.

2) Prioritize which weapons to disarm first - In order to be effective in fighting multiple armed attackers, you must be good at prioritizing which attackers to take out first. You must asses which weapons are the most deadly and focus on those. For example, you can keep a knifeman at bay because the weapon is for close quarters but you will likely get shot and killed by a gun. Therefore, you must focus on taking out the gun strategically.

3) Attack the closest attacker, disarm, and retrieve the weapon - If an attacker with a bat or knife comes charging at you, take him/her out as quickly as possible and disarm. You need an equalizer so don't just stay there empty handed - grab the weapon quickly and use it. If you already have a weapon of your own then use it. Any weapon improvised or not is better than no weapon.

4) Strategically move around - Like i outlined in my previous post, you will need to line up your attackers and fight only one a time. If you've already disarmed a knife, keep moving around keeping only one attacker in front of you as you close in and attack. Conserve your energy by striking at vital areas and take down your opponent's efficiently (kick to the knee caps, circle kicks, leg sweeps, etc.) If someone pulls out a gun in the middle of a fight, you'll need to use the other attackers as human shields (rear naked chokes, clinches, moving in front of them, etc.) Get close and push an attacker into the gunman as a distraction then quickly take control of the gun.

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Saturday, January 21, 2017

How to skillfully use size and brute strength

You've probably heard martial artists or self defense instructors say "size doesn't matter..don't use brute force in a street fight.." This isn't true. Size and strength absolutely do matter! The strategy for dealing with a much larger and stronger attacker is different from dealing with someone who is your own size. If you are a large and built person but don't know what to make of your physical abilities in self defense, this guide is for you.

1) Know yourself - In order for you to put your strength and size to good use, you must understand who you are. What are you good at? Lifting weights? Taking a hit to give a hit? Packing a powerful punch? Grappling? What do your work outs consist of? What about nutrition? The more information you can glean from your body, the more you can put it in a self defense situation.

2) Understand the source of power - Many people have the misconception that strength equals power. Why is it that stronger and larger attackers lose to much smaller people? They don't know where their source of power comes from. In this example, a Jiu Jitsu black belt easily overpowered a body builder who was much stronger and larger than him. What's the catch? Redirecting the flow of energy. If you don't know where your source of power comes from and how to use strength to your advantage, you will lose a fight involving dangerous opponents. Where does your source of power come from? The ground, the core (center of mass around the torso area), and momentum. Simply lifting weights and building outer muscles won't make you fit to fight. To be a good striker for example, you must learn how body mechanics work and how to develop your inner muscles responsible for powerful hits (see helpful link below). All the muscles in the world will not help you in a street fight. Only when you understand your source of power do your muscles serve you well.

3) Develop your own fighting abilities - Some people like to think speed and skill is superior to strength. This isn't necessarily true. Two can play at that game including you. How do you develop your own fighting prowess for combat? Recognize your strengths and weaknesses. Are you fast? Slow? Do you have longer reach? Tire too easily? Some ideas i've come up with are training to time your accurate punches and pack alot of power in each one. If your size and strength makes you tire more, learn how to invest your energy wisely. You may want to use momentum, gravity, balance, and strength in your attack strategy. Learning wrestling or some striking art like boxing may be useful to you. It's also beneficial to understand your attacking range and your opponent's. Doesn't matter how fast or agile your attackers are, they will eventually have to get close to you and that gives you an opportunity to strike. You also have to be mindful of how your investing your energy. If you face a faster opponent, all you have to do is move just a little bit to where you won't get hit instead of trying to dodge every attack. One powerful punch combined with superior strength timed correctly can bring devastating consequences (broken bones, damaged organs, possibly death). You could also slam your attackers to the ground and nullify their attacking ability using momentum which also would cause damage. If someone tries to knock or throw you over, lower your center of gravity then attack. This video of a wrestler taking on multiple opponents is an inspiring example of how strength could be applied in combat.

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Friday, January 20, 2017

How to improve your Wing Chun


Whether you are struggling or excelling in Wing Chun, there's always room for improvement. This guide will give you several tips on how to improve as a Wing Chun practitioner for self defense by applying Wing Chun principles.

* Strike first - A big mistake Wing Chun practitioners make is waiting for an attack to happen. If you wait for an attack to happen, you might not have time to respond and it puts you on the defensive. By striking first, you control the flow and pace of the fight as your opponent is on the defensive. Make the first hit count especially if you plan on using Wing Chun for self defense. 

* Apply forward pressure - Another big mistake people make is not closing the gap and applying forward pressure. I've made this mistake myself where my sparring partner was throwing uppercuts, crosses, jabs, and realized Wing Chun's power comes from driving your body forward as you attack or defend. If you simply stand there deflecting and attacking your opponent without stepping forward, all your opponent has to do is either move forward to grapple you or back to avoid getting hit. Once you have the opportunity to attack, you keep stepping forward until your opponent is overwhelmed with attacks or falls over. 

In this example (ignore the rest), notice how the Wing Chun chain punches the Muay Thai fighter while stepping forward to drive the fighter back into a mirror. This is the concept of applying forward pressure.   


* Take your opponent off balance - Another common mistake is not taking your opponent off balance. As long as your opponent is still standing, you have not eliminated the threat effectively. Removing your opponent's balance is one of the principles in Wing Chun. If your opponent tries to do a kick, step forward to intercept it and cause your opponent to lose balance then deliver powerful blows to knock him or her over. If your opponent tries to do a high kick, tan sao or trap the leg and deliver a stomp kick to the side of the knee in the rear leg. The quicker you can take your opponent off balance, the quicker the fight will end.

* Keep your balance - The proper way to keep balancing is knowing how much pressure to apply to which foot. Improper application of energy leads to loss of balance. For example you should not put all of your weight in the rear foot and no power in your kicking foot. A solid structured alignment, footwork, and proper use of pressure are all essential in keeping your balance. 

* Steal your opponent's balance - One effective method of keeping your balance is by taking your opponent's. For example, when you are about to fall over and your opponent throws a straight punch - you could trap the hand while delivering a front kick of your own. 

* Don't mirror your opponent's centerline - If you mirror your opponent's centerline, you will have to face all of his or her limbs than if you fought on the outside. By moving to the outside or blindside, you will only have to deal with one arm and leg as you are in a better position to strike. If your opponent rushes in for a kick or punch for example, move in to the side and deliver a kick to the rear leg or trap the arm before you attack. 

* Don't retreat - A mistake Wing Chun practitioners make is falling back from an attack. You might create distance but this doesn't give you an advantageous position. Rather than move back, step to the side in order for you to get a superior position to attack while avoiding the line of your opponent's attack. For example, i'd step to the side and deliver a counter-attack to a charging opponent rather than move back then face the possibility of falling over. You retreat only when necessary to create space and even if you do, you don't lose contact. If say an opponent advances to seize an opportunity to attack me, i move back but deliver a straight punch in the process to create distance before i apply forward pressure.

* Control your opponent - There are many Wing Chun practitioners who allow their opponents to control them rather than the other way around. They lose structure, balance, and technique before it turns into a grappling contest. Controlling your opponent is one of the most fundamental principles in Wing Chun. If you are within range for example, use fook sao to bring your opponent's head forward while delivering a strike to the face. Grab your opponent by the hair or clothing for leverage. Control the elbows to nullify your opponent's striking ability then throw him or her to the ground. Control your opponent, don't let your opponent control you. 

* Go with the flow - Another fatal mistake Wing Chun practitioners make is fighting force with force. Wing Chun is about absorbing strength and using it against your opponent. If your opponent grabs your arm and pulls you forward, that's fine because he/she is bringing you into your attacking range quickly. If your opponent tries to pull back from your lap sao, help him or her fall over by letting go and delivering a kick to the groin.

* Watch your opponent's elbow and control it - The elbow moves slower than the fist. Therefore, keep your eyes on the elbow and you will predict what your opponent will do.

* Proper elbow alignment - Your hands should defend your upper body while your elbows should be aligned to defend your lower body. If your opponent tries to uppercut, you elbow strike the fists and cause them to break.

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Thursday, January 19, 2017

Self defense against a grenade attack

While you probably think self defense against grenades is ridiculous or useless, explosives have been used by school shooters such as in the Columbine massacre. They had the knowledge and materials needed to make explosive devices. Let's say that you are in a situation and you get attacked by an active shooter or terrorists, how would you respond to a grenade landing near you? This guide will help you.

1) Recognize the threat - Keep a watchful eye on what goes on. Do you see someone carrying a grenade? Do you see suspicious activity? Keeping track of the suspicious people who walk in or around buildings will give you cues of a potential danger.

2) Attack and/or take cover - If by chance, you are at close range to an attacker who pulls out a grenade and is about to detonate it, attack. Trap the hand and take your enemy down. Do an immobilizing strike (strike to the throat, side of neck, temple, and other pressure points) if possible Secure the weapon as you prevent the pin from being pulled and carefully perform a disarm as you secure the arm. I don't recommend punching your attacker in case the grenade falls or the pin is removed as shown in this video because there's so little time. I do however recommend using your enemy as a shield. That being said, reposition your enemy over the grenade if possible and take cover.

If you are at a long distance and a grenade is thrown, sprint then take cover. If you can use a wall or another obstacle to shield you from the blast then do so. If not then your best bet is to get down and tuck your arms in as you close your legs with your feet pointing at the grenade. Why do this? Because even if you avoid the explosion, you can still die from the shrapnel and debris caused by it. By protecting all of your vital areas, you minimize that risk. You should also yell "grenade!" to warn those in the military or those who've been trained to respond to explosives.

3) Escape - Right after the grenade has detonated, you need to escape as quickly as you can to avoid the possibility of gunfire.

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Wednesday, January 18, 2017

Psychological defense against violent intimidation

An effective and often neglected method of avoiding conflict is psychologically defending yourself against an intimidating person. Many self defense and martial arts schools teach that when faced with someone intimidating you, you should be ready to respond physically. They don't teach you how to deal with the psychological aspect. Physical self defense should be your last resort. This guide will give you insights into how to diffuse a potentially violent situation from an intimidating and violent individual. Down below, i've posted a helpful link to deal with intimidation.

I will create the following scenario and i want you to think about your responses. Imagine an abnormally large menacing muscular man approaches you at a bus stop or in a park and let's assume that you practice self defense. Imagine you both engage in the following dialogue:

Man : "..don't you practice self defense in X school?"

You: "..yea i do.."

The man then aggressively gets in your face and says in a more challenging tone of voice.

Man: "..well i think your a fraud...i think what your learning is garbage and it's what's gonna get you killed...you know i just got out of prison and i've beaten guys like you to a pulp...what's to stop me from crushing your skull in and having your blood flowing all over this ground right now?!? Think you can take me on?!? I will destroy you fool!"

Here are the some of the common mistakes people make.

1. Get defensive - When people are insulted or verbally attacked in any way, their response is to defend themselves. You may respond by insulting your offender back or justifying yourself in the face of accusations ex. being a fraud. Once you get defensive, you give your offender power over you because he/she knows your weaknesses. All your offender has to do is keep pressuring you until a fight breaks out because you are validating his or her judgement on you.

2. Not taking what your intimidator says seriously - Some people may laugh it off and say "yea man i don't buy it..." Your offender may say something like "oh you think this is a joke?!?" then start attacking you. This is bad because if your offender threatened you and there's some credibility to the threat, your verbal attacker may try to communicate violently that he or she means serious business. You should always take threats seriously.

3. Avoidance - Some people will shut down and try to psychologically avoid the situation by saying something like "i don't want any trouble." The person intimidating you may respond with "well trouble found you. Why don't you man up and deal with it?!?" Once you are in this particular situation, it's unavoidable unless there was a way of escape. If you try to back up without first disengaging psychologically, you give your offender power over you and he or she may end up attacking you.

If you don't respond with violence, the person intimidating you may try to keep pushing your buttons and finding out your weaknesses by saying something along the lines of:

"...what if i ended up hurting your loved ones, would you fight me then? I just threatened your loved ones and you won't do anything about it..your pathetic! Your a coward! Your a joke!"

If you've snapped out of fear for your loved ones safety then you've already given what your intimidators want and that is violence. If you suddenly freeze in fear, that's bad because you could get hit at any moment and not be prepared to respond.

What's the best way to diffuse the situation without resorting to violence?

* Know your enemy - According to behavioral theorists, people who resort to intimidation do so out of fear. It's fear of your race, your skills, your gender, your orientation, or some aspect of you that makes them feel inferior. Perhaps they grew up in an environment where they've been intimidated by authority so their way of coping is by intimidating others and believing that the only way to survive is to intimidate. Think about this. Why would someone who is truly secure in his or her knowledge seek to intimidate someone who is seen as weaker than him or her? Only someone who seeks to prove something to him or her self would go out of the way to intimidate you. Behind whatever image the person intimidating you puts up, there are hidden vulnerabilities.


* Keep your distance - Keep your enemy in your vision. Last thing you want is someone sneaking up behind you and hitting you with a weapon before you get jumped. Don't allow yourself to get too close.

* Focus on your body language - Show no aggression or any emotion. Keep a calm composure. Focus on breathing. Let the person intimidating you that his or her methods won't work on you. Don't look him or her in the eyes. Your focus should be on his or her body so you'll be able to respond quicker in case of an attack.

* Emphasize with your enemy - Learn to see the inner child of the person intimidating you. He or she may scream, destroy objects, and do many things to instill fear in you but there's a hidden message being communicated. Maybe he/she has never been acknowledged as a child or bullied. Either way, try to put yourself in that person's shoes. Show empathy by thinking "it must not be easy to come from a place where you had to compete to show dominance...it must not be easy living in an environment where you have to resort to violence to communicate your feelings" By showing compassion, you will become less afraid and less stressed out as you will begin to see the human side of your potential attacker.

* Don't assume the victim role - Resist the urge to fall into the victim mentality where you feel you are powerless to do anything in these types of situations. Change the way you view yourself and learn to see yourself as a problem solver. If you see yourself as a victim, you may end up blaming yourself for not fighting back afterwards.

* Focus on yourself, not on your enemy - Your intimidator will shift the focus from you to him/her and how "tough" he/she is ex. "..i just got out of prison and i've beaten guys like you to a pulp!" When you focus on your enemy, that's what creates fear. When you are facing an intimidator, keep the focus on yourself and what you've accomplished. Focus on your abilities and be confident in who you are.

* Communicate with your verbal attacker - Rather than assume everything he or she says is wrong, validate his or her words. That is, learn to see your attacker as a partner rather than a threat. Get your offender to express his or her feelings in a constructive way to get a different reaction. For example, you might ask something along the lines of:

Man: "..well i think what your learning is garbage, i think your fraud!"

You: "...thanks for your honesty, what makes you think i'm a fraud?"

This will cause the person intimidating you to process your question and think of an answer thus diffusing the situation to some degree. Continue to ask probing questions to get to the root of what the intimidating person really wants from you.

* Know your strengths and improve your weaknesses - In order for you to withstand psychological pressure and keep from losing self control, you must know yourself. What are your weaknesses? If your attacker points them out to make you feel inferior, realize how valuable your strengths are and how you are trying your best. For example, if you are insecure about your striking ability then focus on other areas which you excel at and stress their importance.

* Diversion - Shift the focus away from yourself to other topics like the sun or the police to distract the initmidator from channeling his or her energy on you. For instance when the man in the scenario above instigates a fight, you could say "by the way, there's other people staring at us.."

* Assertively set consequences - If your intimidator persists in violating your boundaries and gets physical with you, set proper consequences. Make the consequences non-aggressive but also non-submissive. For example, if he or she persists on violating your physical boundaries then you might say something along the lines of "If you don't stop, i'm going to have to call the police. Is that what you want?" This may quickly turn from violation to respect for not backing down.

During training, practice these techniques with a partner or in mental rehearsals. Go through my scenario again and see how it's different from your prior response. Remember that someone who intimidates you is acting out of inner misery. Hopefully your offender will back away after he/she realizes you aren't intimidated or you'll have an opportunity to walk away from the situation when the opportunity presents itself.

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